Engagement and Weddings

 This week’s topic is weddings and engagements. This is a very exciting thing to talk about because a lot of people think about getting engaged and married for a very long time. Every girl wants their dream engagement and wedding, right? But is it really worth it to have this huge elaborate wedding if it will put a strain on your brand-new marriage. 

Let’s first start with getting engaged. When you get engaged it should be a step up in the relationship, a promise. This promise should be that you will be getting married and be married for the rest of your lives. I feel like lately people like people are on either side of the extreme. They either get engaged and then after deciding if that is really what they want that or not. Or on the other side they will start planning a wedding and everything before they even get engaged. If people are doing this stuff what if the point of even getting engaged? Just for the pictures? 

Now comes the wedding. Weddings can cause a lot of stress between a couple. The couple should be planning the wedding together, not just the bride. Doing this will bring the couple together and working on their planning and compromising. If the bride plans the wedding with her family and the groom does not help at all this can pull the bride away toward her family and cause a split in the new family unit. It’s important to have the families input on the wedding but the couple should be equally sharing the responsibilities of planning. This can be an important part in drawing the couple closer to each other to create a new and strong family unit. 

The next aspect of the wedding is cost. How important is it really to spend a crazy amount on one day of your life? I know that it is an important day but is it worth being in debt? If it is not financial debt, it could be debt to the parents if they pay for the whole thing. I know that most parents won’t say you owe them anything but when it comes down to whose Christmas to join, they might bring it up and use it. This can cause some major tension in the family and on a marriage. Overall, it is completely up to you what you want to do for your engagement and wedding but make sure you are smart about what you choose to set your new marriage up for success.