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Divorce

  Marriage can be very hard and sometimes it may not be the right thing for the family. Divorce is a big decision for a couple to make. When the decision to get a divorce is made it can turn your family upside down. You will have to tell you kids and find a way to help them understand. You will have to talk to them and make sure that they do not blame themselves. You will have to find a new custody arrangement and see what works for your family. Your family will look at lot different that before you decided to get a divorce.               Many divorces have to do with money. According to the Jimenez law firm, “Money arguments are the second leading cause of divorce, behind infidelity. High levels of debt and poor communication lead to stress and anxiety when it comes to finances. Nearly half of couples with $50,000 or more in debt say money is their top reason for arguing. Nearly 2/3 of all marriages start in debt.” Earlier in the semester we talked about how having a big wedding and s
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Parenting

  Parenting is a very controversial topic. There are many different opinions on what the best way would be to parent your kids. There is “gentle parenting” that has caught a lot of attention recently. There is also the psychologic four different kind of parenting. It can be hard to know what the best way is to parent your kids. There is also not one way that is the best it depends on your family circumstances.   First, I am going to discuss the different types of parenting from a phycologist point of view. The first type of parenting is authoritative. This is said the be the “best” kind of parenting. According to my developmental psychology textbook (The development of the Lifespan by Laura Berk) say that authoritative parenting is “involves high acceptance and involvement, adaptive control techniques, and appropriate autonomy granting. Authoritative parents are warm, attentive, and sensitive to their child’s needs. They establish an enjoyable, emotionally fulfilling parent–child relat
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Money and Marriage

  How important is money in marriage? According to Elder Marvin J. Ashton thinks it is incredibly important. In One for the Money Guide to Family finance he says “How important are money management and finances in marriage and family affairs? May I respond, tremendously. The American Bar Association has indicated that 89 percent of all divorces can be traced to quarrels and accusations over money. Others have estimated that 75 percent of all divorces result from clashes over finances. Some professional counselors indicate that four out of five families are strapped with serious money problems.” When preparing for marriage and while focusing on the stability of your marriage it is important to highly consider how finances can affect and or hinder your relationship. Getting advice from a trusted and educated source can help to make sure that you are on the right track.   People can have many different kinds of financial struggles. Some of these can include, lack of money, poor communicat
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Communication

  Family life can become very busy and hectic especially when the family starts to grow and get bigger. There can be many things that need to be accomplished in a day and it is important to maintain good communication in the family. There are many things that need to be talked about and some of those things include finances, daily tasks, work responsibilities, and family expectations.               One way to help communication is to know and use the different steps to resolve conflict. There are seven steps that can help with resolving conflict. These steps are first, identify and define the issue. This can help with making sure that everyone is one the same page and are focused on reach a solution. The second step is being a team when it comes to working through the issue. The third step is to understand the issue completely. The fourth step is to identify the wants of all members of the family, including yourself, the family, and a couple. The fifth step is brainstorm and create opt
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Stress in the Family

This week’s topic is stress in the family. There are many kinds of stress that can happen in people’s lives. Some stressful events are money problems, family members injury or death, bills, work problems, and unemployment. These are only a few of the different things that could cause major stress on your family.        There are others factor that are important to consider when dealing with family stress. One of those factors is the fact the people react to stress differently. People also deal with stress very differently. So, when dealing with family stress it is important to take into consideration the different ways that your family will need to cope and try to understand the situation that is causing stress to the family. Another aspect of stress to think about it how some events can cause major stress to a family when that same stress will not cause stress to a different family.      The textbook Lauer & Lauer, Chapter 13 - Family Crisis explains this well by saying “What is t
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Intimate relationships in marriage

  This week I am going to be talking about how to better your relationship within a marriage. I will be using a lot of my information from the article raising the bar on intimate relationships by Laura M Brotherson. In this article she talks about how it can be hard to find the right balance in a marriage and what a healthy intimate relationship looks like. Brotherson says “Many husbands and wives struggle to understand what healthy sexuality really is. One wife said to me.” She gives most of her advice in a list of 10 things.   Number one; accepting of the body. This is more gaged towards women because they tend to have more body issues, but it is important for both the husband and the wife to be able to except their bodies. If they don’t it can cause feelings of not wanting to have an intimate relationship with each other.   Number two; affection for its own sake. This one talks about how it is important to have physical touch in a marriage that does not lead to having sex. She gives
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Engagement and Weddings

  This week’s topic is weddings and engagements. This is a very exciting thing to talk about because a lot of people think about getting engaged and married for a very long time. Every girl wants their dream engagement and wedding, right? But is it really worth it to have this huge elaborate wedding if it will put a strain on your brand-new marriage.   Let’s first start with getting engaged. When you get engaged it should be a step up in the relationship, a promise. This promise should be that you will be getting married and be married for the rest of your lives. I feel like lately people like people are on either side of the extreme. They either get engaged and then after deciding if that is really what they want that or not. Or on the other side they will start planning a wedding and everything before they even get engaged. If people are doing this stuff what if the point of even getting engaged? Just for the pictures?   Now comes the wedding. Weddings can cause a lot of stress betwe
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